Grief

Matthew’s heart-warming story of post-traumatic growth.

Matthew bravely shares his story of grief - then growth.

After Matthew read Sandra’s Good Grief! story “Beyond casseroles: a widower’s guide to moving forward” at: https://good-grief.com.au/beyond-casseroles-a-widowers-guide-to-moving-forward/ he was inspired to get in touch. In a moment strangely resonant of Sydney’s current lockdown, in April last year he allowed us to publish his grief story. He began a period of … Read more

Crucial end of life Conversations

The many allied health professionals oncology patients have to navigate can be overwhelming. Photo - National Cancer Institute.

by Sandra Moon. ‘I feel his organs are shutting down,’ my mother said on the phone. But how? Two days before Mum had rung me to ask for help getting Dad to the emergency ward at our local hospital. I burst into tears worried that he may enter hospital and … Read more

Good grief: how can we make it easier to talk about death?

Julia Craig's story, about helping others deal with grief grief, features in a recent issue of stuff.co.nz - Photo by Rosa Woods.

Yes, this is our mantra too. We shared the link to this story in our March newsletter. “For many people, grief is private – and shameful. Two young women want to bring it out of the shadows,” writes Jehan Casinader, in this piece of Feb 27,  from www.stuff.co.nz Jehan’s piece looks at gaps … Read more

Sharing Pregnancy Loss.

Tahyna MacManus captures the grief and the changing tide of women’s experiences in Misunderstandings about Miscarriage.

by Sandra Moon Did you or someone you know wait until after twelve-weeks to share news of a pregnancy? I did and the reason was in case I lost my baby. I wanted to avoid those painful conversations. I didn’t think twice about the decision not sharing could have on … Read more

It’s Australia Day tomorrow and this is why so many people mourn it.

First Nations Australians, painted by Joseph Lycett, in the Newcastle region.

It’s Australia Day tomorrow and in this country we’re divided about it. That’s because so many of our First Nations people point out that for them it’s not a day of celebration but a day of mourning, since their land was invaded and many of their lives were lost in … Read more

Sometimes the source of our grief is not noticeable to others.

The birth of a new baby, even though good, is an example of a big life transition. Photo-Aditya-Romansa-@adroman-via-Unsplash.png

We all know it – grief is part of life. And it’s not just the obvious, big things like the death of friends or family that cause this pain. Sometimes the source of grief and loss is not noticeable to others. A classic example is retirement. Everyone comes up to … Read more

Coffin Art gave Sandra the Chance to Talk to her Cousin one Last Time.

Coffin art offered a chance to talk to my cousin one last time, photo: Sandra Moon

It made a difference to be able to connect one last time, SANDRA MOON, journalist, editor, writer and no stranger to grief, says of her personal experience with coffin art. In the crematorium I waited with the other mourners, thick black markers in hand, to write a message on the … Read more

Dipping into the well.

A conversation with friends took me to a well the other day. We were walking in the Sydney sunshine along Bungaree’s Walkway at Middle Head, a natural pathway with extraordinary views around Sydney’s majestic harbour, when the conversation, idling unselfconsciously as they do, turned to grief. I was asked about my … Read more

Feel The Magic

Feel The Magic is a charity started by James Thomas to help to support young people aged 7-17 dealing with the loss of a parent, sibling or legal guardian.

Every now and then we meet or hear of someone working in the grief space, with an idea that is truly magical. James and Kristy Thomas’ Feel the Magic, is just such an organisation. James and his wife Kristy started the charity about eight years ago. Its purpose is to … Read more

What has grief taught Jessica Rowe?

Margaret Rice asks - What has grief taught Jessica Rowe?

What has grief taught you? “I’m like so many people in our culture, so I don’t do grief well. Very few of us do grief well. We don’t talk about it enough, we shy away from it, we’re frightened of it.” “It’s good to remember that grief can cover all … Read more

A Grief without a loss

John Brogden, Chair of Lifeline

“Watching the statistics on calls to Lifeline is a good way for us to monitor how the community is coping with the COVID-19 pandemic,” says John Brogden, Chair of Lifeline, the 24-hour telephone crisis support service. He is speaking to Good Grief! as Victoria is relentlessly pummelled with new COVID-19 … Read more

Even Harvard knows about grief.

Friend and fellow traveller Mimi passed this info along. It’s a resource to help with grief, prepared by Harvard Medical School’s publishing house. This line attracted our attention: “You’ll learn that some of the things we’ve been taught about grief don’t necessarily hold true.” For example, *denial can actually be … Read more

The flowers at the pedestrian button.

The flowers at the pedestrian lights

We have a floral tribute in my community, firmly attached by rounds and rounds of sticky tape to the pedestrian button at the traffic lights. It started with a public note attached. The flowers are a metre or two down the street from a pole with A4 posters, one advertising … Read more

‘Capturing kindness’ through funeral photography.

Photo by John Slaytor, the funeral photographer._DSC6374

As Good Grief! roams, peeping in quiet corners, delving into resources from country to country and looking at new and old ways of doing death, this one has popped up, right on our doorstep, only a suburb away. John Slaytor is a funeral photographer. Yes, that’s right. While he’s also … Read more