Grief

Sometimes the source of our grief is not noticeable to others.

The birth of a new baby, even though good, is an example of a big life transition. Photo-Aditya-Romansa-@adroman-via-Unsplash.png

We all know it – grief is part of life. And it’s not just the obvious, big things like the death of friends or family that cause this pain. Sometimes the source of grief and loss is not noticeable to others. A classic example is retirement. Everyone comes up to … Read more

Coffin Art gave Sandra the Chance to Talk to her Cousin one Last Time.

Coffin art offered a chance to talk to my cousin one last time, photo: Sandra Moon

It made a difference to be able to connect one last time, SANDRA MOON, journalist, editor, writer and no stranger to grief, says of her personal experience with coffin art. In the crematorium I waited with the other mourners, thick black markers in hand, to write a message on the … Read more

Dipping into the well.

A conversation with friends took me to a well the other day. We were walking in the Sydney sunshine along Bungaree’s Walkway at Middle Head, a natural pathway with extraordinary views around Sydney’s majestic harbour, when the conversation, idling unselfconsciously as they do, turned to grief. I was asked about my … Read more

Feel The Magic

Feel The Magic is a charity started by James Thomas to help to support young people aged 7-17 dealing with the loss of a parent, sibling or legal guardian.

Every now and then we meet or hear of someone working in the grief space, with an idea that is truly magical. James and Kristy Thomas’ Feel the Magic, is just such an organisation. James and his wife Kristy started the charity about eight years ago. Its purpose is to … Read more

What has grief taught Jessica Rowe?

Margaret Rice asks - What has grief taught Jessica Rowe?

What has grief taught you? “I’m like so many people in our culture, so I don’t do grief well. Very few of us do grief well. We don’t talk about it enough, we shy away from it, we’re frightened of it.” “It’s good to remember that grief can cover all … Read more

A Grief without a loss

John Brogden, Chair of Lifeline

“Watching the statistics on calls to Lifeline is a good way for us to monitor how the community is coping with the COVID-19 pandemic,” says John Brogden, Chair of Lifeline, the 24-hour telephone crisis support service. He is speaking to Good Grief! as Victoria is relentlessly pummelled with new COVID-19 … Read more

Even Harvard knows about grief.

Friend and fellow traveller Mimi passed this info along. It’s a resource to help with grief, prepared by Harvard Medical School’s publishing house. This line attracted our attention: “You’ll learn that some of the things we’ve been taught about grief don’t necessarily hold true.” For example, *denial can actually be … Read more

The flowers at the pedestrian button.

The flowers at the pedestrian lights

We have a floral tribute in my community, firmly attached by rounds and rounds of sticky tape to the pedestrian button at the traffic lights. It started with a public note attached. The flowers are a metre or two down the street from a pole with A4 posters, one advertising … Read more

‘Capturing kindness’ through funeral photography.

Photo by John Slaytor, the funeral photographer._DSC6374

As Good Grief! roams, peeping in quiet corners, delving into resources from country to country and looking at new and old ways of doing death, this one has popped up, right on our doorstep, only a suburb away. John Slaytor is a funeral photographer. Yes, that’s right. While he’s also … Read more

Burials Without Hugs – Our 2020 Moment

The Covid-19 crisis had its biggest consequences for these two most important rituals, the wedding and the funeral. “During the service I never pose people or use flash photography. Discrete candid photography allows me to capture the sombre mode of family embracing, children deep in thought, and friends crofting the … Read more

How Funerals are changing.

How funerals are changing

“The limit on the number of guests allowed at funerals is the latest COVID-19 restriction to be eased in NSW,” Jenny Noyes reported in Sydney Morning Herald  yesterday, (June 14). From July 1, indoor venues will no longer be limited to 50 patrons but for funerals, the changes will come into … Read more

What David Dungay has to do with this.

Australia is not Innocent - still from ABC News, Tuesday June 2.

“All lives don’t matter until black lives matter,” a young protester in Sydney told the ABC on Tuesday night. American George Floyd’s death has triggered distress in Australia’s Indigenous families about their own people’s continued deaths at the hands of authorities. Change appeared to come after a Royal Commission into … Read more

Contact, listen and bless.

Contact, listen and bless - the bereaved need support but often we step back

What do you say to someone who’s recently been bereaved? “Contact, listen and bless,” says the UK’s At A Loss organisation. The bless is “shower with good things”. At A Loss’s tips include: make contact, even if you’re unsure about it call, don’t video call be prepared to leave a … Read more

Our grief responses are okay – even the little ones.

The OK's of Covid-19, by the Healing Patch, https://www.homenursingagency.com/our-services/childrens-services/healing-patch

Today “The OKs of Covid-19: validating our responses to the pandemic”, which comes from the Home Nursing Agency, Pennsylvania, USA. We’re re-sharing this post from Deb Rawling’s Linked-In page. Thank you Deb. Deb is a Senior Lecturer in Palliative Care, Flinders University, South Australia. This simple guide has 10 great … Read more